attack_laurel (attack_laurel) wrote,
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attack_laurel

Loud, verbal, enthusiastic, *continuing* consent is the only consent.


Uh, lost someone with that last post.

What the hell, let's lose some more with some good ol' rape-related linkspam, in honour of the brown underwear stain of a movie that actually includes a "funny" date rape scene, Observe and Report.

Some people may look at the title of my post and say (as has been said in many discussions, IRL and on line, "but asking permission constantly? That's no fun!". This post is dedicated to them, and their ilk worldwide.

To start with, I honestly don't see what's funny or edgy about a date rape scene. (Tiger Beatdown)

"So, then, Observe & Report: a movie with a scene of rape in which the joke is that it's not really rape, in which the joke is that you can fuck a heavily drugged, unconscious woman and the only problem will happen when you stop - she will urge you to keep going, in the one second that she is verbal or capable of response, before she slips back into unconsciousness - and in which the joke, the hilarious gutsy edgy laugh line that sets audiences roaring, is that you should have just raped her without hesitation, because look how upset she is when you stop the rape!

And all the girls who've been there go: huh."

Anonymous comments: "I fail to see what's "edgy" about humor based on resurrecting an attitude prevalent in hundreds of cultures over thousands of years, that women's bodies are the property of the men who want them. Not really new, not exactly cutting-edge. The addition of the idea that women's very desire is also subject to the whim of men who want them, that a daughter or sister or friend or wife who desires a man deserves one perjorative term while an object of lust who won't return desire deserves another, the "joke" that a woman wants whatever sex she's having regardless of consent or capacity to enjoy it, is the oldest justification on record for ignoring the wrong in the first idea. Even the desire to justify or gloss the egregious dehumanization of both concepts by dressing them up as humor is as ancient as humanity itself.

Just not finding anything groundbreaking there."

Word.

Again, why isn't stuff like this funny to us?  Here's I Am Not A Cake to explain it in remarkable simplicity

"If I should be assaulted whilst intoxicated, mildly or otherwise, I will be asked to explain why I chose to become intoxicated. My assailant’s actions will be judged less harshly if I am intoxicated. My assailant will not be asked to justify his intoxication, and his actions will be judged still less harshly should he be so."

And for the men that think (or defend the men that think) that having sex with a woman who is passed out is not rape, a simple analysis of the concept of rape (from 'Lectric Law Library). Please take particular note of the section that states:

"A consent obtained from a woman by actual violence, by duress or threats of murder, or by the administration of stupefying drugs, is not such a consent as will shield the offender, nor turn his crime into adultery or fornication". [emphasis mine]

For those with the strength to endure the stories, Shakesville has a post where women are telling their stories of being assaulted and raped (warning: Extremely triggery. so no quotes).

Wisewebwoman is willing to take you with her on her journey of other people's denials about the seriousness of rape and assault. (Warning: Triggery like a mo'fo, ditto.)

- in these posts, a single thing comes to the forefront over and over again, like a river of poison. The constant denial that rape happens, and that any woman who speaks up about it is a whore, dirty, a liar, or that she brought it on herself. That it wasn't really rape, that it's consent if you don't scream, or struggle, or get beaten within an inch of your life, or get killed. It's not rape if you're drunk, or drugged, even if you didn't know you were being drugged or dosed with alcohol. It's not rape if you went out to a bar, it's not rape if you invite a guy in for coffee, it's not rape if you were dressed up, or in a short skirt, or not wearing a bra. It's not rape if it's someone they know and like, it's not rape when it's their friend doing the raping, it's not rape when it's them doing the raping.


Silence is not consent.
Unconsciousness is not consent.
Incapacity is not consent.
Drugged is not consent.
Consent is not the default.

Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.
Consent is not the default.

Think I'm being boring? Think I'm making too much of this? Read the stories.

 
Tags: feminism, movies, not funny, rape, women's issues
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